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'Opinions' may be informed by facts... & humour !

Do listen to Out on Air on bbc radio 4 at 8pm tonight --from Mrs. Dale to Sandy & Julian -apparently !

Soundeth good !

Posted by seeker at Saturday, 10 February 2007 at 10:38am GMT

Thanks for that. I hadn't noticed they had used that piece on CiF!

Posted by Andrew Brown at Saturday, 10 February 2007 at 11:20am GMT

I applauded Rowan's acknowledgment of the "..."prosaic heroism" of earlier generations of married couples..." when I read it in the Telegraph earlier this week.

My heart was saddened that for many marriage is still reduced to the tenets of baby conceiving and rearing. This overly simplistic model of marriage has many things to condemn it. At one level, it is misogynistic, men marry those filthy women so you can use their wombs to create children for the glory of God (aka soldiers in our next war). Women, have children, or you have no worth - we don't love you for your personalities, other gifts or talents. You exist purely to breed children. I sometimes think that this misogynistic form of theology thinks that Eve was sent out with Adam so he had a convenient womb to hand, and when Adam had purified himself enough, Eve was to be expunged as an undesired annoyance.

If women only exist to placate men until men no longer need women, then the bible would not talk about the feminine traits of God or God's reconcialiation plans for the feminine.

What is overlooked are the many psychological and emotional benefits of marriage. God asks us to marry each other to help us learn how to be married to God. He asks us to accept that we enjoy the other's company, to put aside our own needs to help the other, to realise that there are different gifts and talents and you can either compete or complement each other, to share a discovery that the other found without you, to rejoice in another's success and wellbeing, to dream and fulfill visions, to learn to be true to yourself and to another.

These are non-sexual benefits of marriage. They can apply as much to a homosexual marriage as to a heterosexual marriage. I rejoice in life-long homosexual relationships in that they remind us that we exist for more than the potential seed of our loins.

If life long marriage and its lessons bring stability to heterosexuals, isn't it cruel to deny the possibility to other? We are not talking about illegalising monogamy or marriage; we are talking about expanding who is able to partake of this stable nurturing form of family life.

Posted by Cheryl Clough at Saturday, 10 February 2007 at 9:48pm GMT
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